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  • Writer's pictureChelsea Simpson

Why doesn't she leave?

Updated: Feb 26, 2021


๐‘พ๐’‰๐’š ๐’…๐’๐’†๐’”๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’”๐’‰๐’† ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’—๐’†? Because he told her so many times she is nothing, she is ugly, fat, a slag. Because she is no good, no one would want her. ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’š ๐’…๐’๐’†๐’”๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’”๐’‰๐’† ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’—๐’†?

Because she thinks it's her fault and he has brainwashed her to believing this is the love she deserves. That if she just tries harder he will love her the way she needs. That if she tries harder she will be a better mother, a better partner, a better lover. ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’š ๐’…๐’๐’†๐’”๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’”๐’‰๐’† ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’—๐’†?

Because she has pretended she is strong for so long, she is ashamed, she is embarrassed. She blames herself that she canโ€™t even get this rightโ€ฆ something so simple as a relationship. She has heard so many times she is a failure, it's now what she believes. ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’š ๐’…๐’๐’†๐’”๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’”๐’‰๐’† ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’—๐’†?

Because she doesnโ€™t know how tooโ€ฆ she has kept everyone out for so long to protect herself, to protect her family, she is so used to hiding the bruises, the smashed up house, the criesโ€ฆ she doesnโ€™t want to be seen.

๐‘พ๐’‰๐’š ๐’…๐’๐’†๐’”๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’”๐’‰๐’† ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’—๐’†?

Because he has threatened to hurt her, to kill her and anyone she meetsโ€ฆ her family too. And while he says he doesnโ€™t mean it, there is always that fearโ€ฆ what if one day it goes too farโ€ฆ

๐‘พ๐’‰๐’š ๐’…๐’๐’†๐’”๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’”๐’‰๐’† ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’—๐’†?

Because she is scared...

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Unless you have been in an abusive relationship, it's hard to understand how hard it is to escapeโ€ฆ abusers do it behind closed doors.

They do it when no one is looking and isolate their victims, control their money, their phones, their lifeโ€ฆ.. so they have no one to turn to.. except back to the abuser.

We are more concerned with why people stay in abusive relationships, instead of the abuser themselves. They are the only ones at fault.

A victim of abuse does not need your judgement.

They need your support. They need your love. They need to not feel alone.

They need awareness โ™ฅ๏ธ

#domesticabuse #metoo #leavingabusiverelationships #regainingcontrol #love #relationships #life #survivor #confidence #youareenough


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