Are you still trying to move on from your previous relationship?
Are you trying to love again?
Being broken-hearted is never an easy thing. It can take months or even years to finally move on from someone who broke your heart. And the way we cope is different to every person.
Some keep themselves busy so they don’t have time to think and feel the pain. Others try to do new things to feel the void in their life. But either way, the pain is still there.
And after months and years of mending your heart. There are people who still want to feel loved again and they should. Humans are designed for love and connection, it is one of our basic needs.
But how can you start loving someone if you have been hurt?
Here are some ways to start loving again:
1. Allow yourself to be vulnerable again
It can be scary to open yourself with someone when you know it can cause so much pain. Try to look at the positive side and enjoy the feeling of being in love, to be cared for, and to share yourself again. You are missing all those warm moments when you are focusing on the fear.
2. Learn from your mistakes and apply them today
You can’t change the past but you can definitely learn from it. Mistakes are a part of life, we have to accept what has happened and see it as a chance to grow.
3. Become the person you want to date
The more you open yourself up to date the more experience you will have when it comes to love and relationships. You will find out what you want and what you don’t want very quickly if you are authentic in your dating relationships. You will know the qualities and values you are looking for and the qualities and values you hold yourself.
4. Leave any resentment behind
Not all people are the same. And just because you were hurt before, doesn’t mean your next partner will do the same. Try to be positive and present, see them for who they are and what they have to offer.
5. Know that you deserve love
Whatever happened in the past will end there. Know that you are capable of loving again and being loved again. Sometimes we tend to forget to forgive ourselves for a failed relationship.
At the end of the day, life will move forward and if you allow yourself too, so will you. You need to learn to forgive yourself and accept what happened. Forgiveness is not saying it was ok, its saying…”ok I accept this happened”. Only then can you truly open your heart to feel the happiness, love and care of the world.
You deserves it….
Wishing you love, laughter and your happily ever after xxx
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