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Individual Goals In a Relationship

Updated: Jul 22, 2021

It's very easy when in a relationship to think we just have that one goal...

Be happy and create a life together...

A wonderful thought and a great goal... but it can't be the only one.

The reason?

Because there are two of you.

Two individual people…yes, you may share values, a home, a life... even a bank account.

But... you are two separate people...

And what brought you together were the qualities you liked and admired in each other. This is why it's important to not only make goals together but have your own inspirations and goals too.

My favourite quote is by Helen Keller:

I love it because we all bring our own attributes and qualities...

To keep in line with current trends... seeing as Euro 2020 is finally on. Look at the England Team... It's not just one type of player that makes up the team.

They all have their strengths and weaknesses; they all make up the team.

And it's the same for your relationship, you are a team, and you need to know how you can support each other so you both can win.

This is why it's essential to set goals not only as a couple but separately too.

The First Step:

Get really honest with each other about what you really value and want out of life. These conversations aren't always easy, but they need to be had. Knowing what the other person wants for the future means you can help and support each other in achieving your goals as a couple and as individuals.

Make a point to sit down regularly to check in and see where you are at:

Set time aside for each other to chat about goals and reflect on what you have achieved.

Discuss challenges you both are having with your individual and couple goals.

Hold each other accountable and celebrate each other's goals.

The good thing about this is that you are focused on what makes you, what you want to achieve, and brings your partner in to share that with you.

The conversations will usually lead to couple goals, things in the relationship, and everything in-between.

It doesn't have to be too serious, it can be fun, and I encourage you to set little rewards to be enjoyed together to celebrate your wins.

Whether you are in a long-established relationship or just starting out, implementing goal-oriented conversations can be crucial for a healthy relationship. Having honest and open discussions about what you want both as an individual and within a relationship will only strengthen your bond and make it easier to move through life together.

Having your partner as your biggest supporter doesn't sound too bad after all, now does it?

Here's to love, laughter, and living happily ever after… xxx


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