If you don’t believe in yourself, how do you expect anybody else to?
Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone. And that feels different.
It would be nice to feel confident everyday, but the truth is we do get days when we feel insecure or not ourselves.
What we can do though, is work on the inside out so that when we walk in the room, we can do it with our head held high, knowing that we don’t have to compare ourselves to others because we are happy exactly how we are.
Here are some tips on how you can boost your confidence:
1. Do the right thing.
Confident people have their values and they align their actions based on those values. But there are times where you will choose between being happy or being right, choose the latter. Because at the end of the day, your actions and your decisions define your character. Choose what kind of character you want to portray.
2. Get things done.
Achievement and accomplishments literally boost your confidence. After doing something small or big, you’ll feel good after finishing it. Those little reward ticks make us want to do more. We are programmed to win and for success.
3. Monitor your progress.
Create a list of goals you want to achieve. Then, slowly accomplish those goals and monitor what you have done and what can be improved. That way, you’ll know that you're one day better than you were yesterday. Small steps can make the biggest difference.
4. Stand up for yourself.
No one will protect and believe in you more than yourself. There are people who will not believe in you and will try to disturb your peace. So do what you can to accomplish and have the inner peace in you.
5. Know your worth.
This has nothing to do with anyone else. Nothing at all. It’s the internal measure of how you value yourself and the standards you set for yourself, the little rules you live by that make you who you are. And once you know them, you won’t settle for less.
6. Do what makes you happy.
What do you love to do? Do you like to dance, sing or paint? Then do it. Some people won’t understand the little things you do that bring you joy but it’s not about them. It is about finding those little things that make you happier, and those little things are personal to you.
7. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Jealousy is the mother of loneliness and low self-esteem. When you try to compare yourself to others, you will lose your value. You will think that they are better than you, that your life is miserable, that something is missing. And that is wrong. You have your own value and you can never see everything on the outside. You may think you're not good enough, and you need to be more like someone else to feel better but that is not the answer. Focus on the things that build you up and mind your own business.
8. Surround yourself with positive people.
The negative self talk can often kick in and we start comparing ourselves to others, or moaning about the things we are unhappy with. It is not good especially if the people close to you are also doing the same. The key is to surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. People who will not bring you down but will lift you up.
9. Be kind to yourself.
Self-compassion involves treating yourself with kindness. Allow yourself to heal and learn from your mistakes or experience setbacks. We all make mistakes and we all have the opportunity to learn from them.
10. Crack a smile.
Studies show that smiling can also help reduce feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you. This might be the easiest way to boost your confidence. Find something fun, something silly to do and enjoy living in the moment.
Pick a couple of the things above and see how you get on! I would love to know how these tips have helped you xx