• Chelsea Simpson

How the lack of communication can ruin your relationships

Updated: Oct 21, 2021

Do you constantly avoid arguments or conversations with your partner?


Are you being irritated by simple questions?


Lack of communication and miscommunication is the most common reason why relationships go under. Communication is one of the most important things within a relationship, it’s one of the key ways to express your emotions. If you aren’t able to express how you feel or what is bothering you, it can be seriously damaging to the quality of your relationship.


If you struggle to even tell your partner that you are upset, or you fancy pizza instead of a burger, then there’s a problem. These simple conversations have an impact on your relationship and soon things can become very toxic.


Do any of these sound familiar?

  • Fewer attempts to communicate

  • Lack of compromise

  • Being passive aggressive

  • Unresolved arguments

  • Dismissing thoughts and feelings

  • Getting defensive

  • Being inconsiderate to how each other feels

If yes, then it's highly likely your communication could be improved. Being unable to communicate healthily can affect your whole relationship. These effects can be:

  • Less intimacy and connection

  • Loneliness

  • Invalidated feelings

  • Stubbornness

  • Sharing feelings to other people

  • Inability to reach goals

  • Resentment

How to resolve communication issues:


First, you need to learn their love language. All of us communicate in different ways and we also have different ways that we express love. Some may prefer physical touch, others act of service. Not knowing how your partner communicates their love could lead to unnecessary upset. You may feel misunderstood or neglected but in reality you have just missed the little ways they express their feelings and vice versa. Knowing your partner’s language can help you communicate better.


Secondly, identify the areas you struggle with, the arguments you have or the issues that are recurring. Slowly talk about what you can both do to resolve and compromise to make things work. Not just what you expect of the other person.


And lastly, consult an expert. It’s nice to have someone outside the relationship help you to grow your relationship further. Things can be resolved if you have someone who can not only show you the areas you need to improve on, but also how you can begin to improve and change the situation too.


If you are interested in finding out how coaching can help strengthen your relationship, book in a free discovery call today.